Coach Laura Wilson CPC, ELI-MP
I'm Laura Wilson. I am a Life Coach. Does this story sound familiar to you?
“Nope, I’m not doing homework, I’m not helping around the house, and I only want to play video games.”
Has this conversation occurred between you and your child? No matter what age they’re at, kids with learning issues have an agenda, and it usually serves just themselves.
This can break down communication, open the floor for conflict, and only escalate frustration and resentment.
I know all of this all too well. I am a mother of four children, two with learning issues, and between the tears, loneliness, and gut wrenching despair, I wondered how I’d make it through the next day, let alone the long week ahead.
With my learning challenged kids, my husband and I didn’t always see eye to eye on things. I yearned for us a couple to be on the same page when it came to disciplining and encouraging our four kids.
But I needed help, I needed us to be a united front and work together on helping our children.
I needed to know my kids were right where they belonged at this exact moment. I just needed to know how to believe it. There were too many outside forces pushing me to believe I was on the wrong track.
My heart ached as I watched friend’s children take music lessons, thrive in sports, and participate in school plays. Star report cards were showed off, and I could only plaster a contrived smile for them, biting my words on how much I wanted my kids to have the same. While crying on the inside for feeling like I’ve failed my own kids, I studied these families wondering what I missed in bringing up my own kids. What was I doing wrong, and how could I fix it??
Reading enough books to fill a small library on the subject, I knew I had to find solutions that would secure a healthy, happy connection. And with my spouse’s career in the Foreign Service, moving every few years, I knew no matter how deep my roots were planted in the city I was living, we were moving onwards, and the process would unravel once again. It would be the same game, just different schools, teachers and friends. I needed help, and I needed it yesterday!
Little did I know there was no secret Krabby Patty formula.
There often was no teacher willing, let alone happy, to take on my child. My child did not want to be where I needed them to be: in school, in a normal life doing normal activities – just like my neighbor’s kids. My kids were different, and I should be content with what I have. But that sentence never assuaged me. I wanted for my kids, and knew there were ways to get through to them, but had no resources, really, no idea on how to harvest these activities for my kids and maintain enthusiasm.
I went through medical doctors, learning specialists, counselors, physical therapists, and psychologists. I navigated through several overseas postings with my husband, each time searching for the doctor that could best meet our needs. Sometimes I did find respite with a particular specialist, but knew it was short lasting. We left postings early in several countries because the school available to my kids could not meet my kids’ needs. We would settle into another country, only to meet further resistance from teachers who couldn’t take on the challenges my kids presented.
Sometimes we were blessed with an understanding school and teachers. This made our lives easier and more bearable for our kids. We wanted them to want to go to school. We did what we could to stay longer in these postings before having to move off again.
Slowly, I made my way, encouraging the kids the best I could. The journey made me strong, and fostered resilience. And now, after a lot of hard work and with a stick to it attitude, my kids have special allotments for test taking, they’re in smaller classes, and have found medical specialists that have understood our difficult journey and helped us.
Through my research and not giving up, I not only maintained the connection with my kids, I found a way for all of us to thrive as a healthy family. My journey was rocky a lot of the time, sprinkled with plenty of tears. But sticking to my plan of not giving up, and finding what worked for my kids and with me, inspired further growth on how to better relate to my kids.
I know you, too, can have this. I want this for you. I know how desperately I needed someone to come alongside me to help me. Sometimes I didn’t even know where I needed help or how to get it, I just knew I felt alone with nowhere to turn.
What worked for us, may not work for you. But I can assure you, through my life experiences as a parent with kids who have learning issues, I will coach you to a more harmonious and peaceful household.
And as a life coach working with parents of kids with learning issues, I will help you to not only preserve your connection with your children, I’ll coach you where peace, joy and growth will be a part of who your family is. Having taken the journey, I can combine my life experiences with the gift for coaching to create the life experience with your kids you crave.
As a life coach, I will coach you, at your pace, on how to gain what you want and need with your kids. If it’s cooperation, respect and integrity you aspire to, I can coach you. If it’s peace and joy, I can inspire in you how to achieve these intentions. Through my experiences, empathy, and intuition, I can listen to your story and inspire how different and better life can be for you.
Experience your journey to freedom from isolation and heartbreaking anguish to a life you’ve craved for you, your spouse, and your kids. A life full of possibilities and opportunities for your whole family.
Laura Wilson, Life Coach
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